People

I'm going to share my friend's status that she had on facebook.  I'm doing it because it hits very close to home.  She is the mother of four young children all under the age of six I believe and trying to go to school full time as well. 

My friend's status:

After waiting an hour and a half at financial aid with four kids Raider started to cry while I was being helped. I was desperately trying to quiet him when another employee told me I had to leave because we were too loud. As I stood there in shock I told him I couldn't leave because I was in the middle of adjusting my aid. He told me to learn how to control my child. I called the school sobbing and was transferred to the vice president. She said I could always bring my children, that she would watch them in her office if I needed, and that I would be receiving a personal apology from the guy that said it to me.
He was so snotty. As I walked away a woman chased me down to hug me. I couldn't believe it. I was trying so hard.
I've never had that happen as a parent but am grateful the VP took Me seriously.

 The VP said she would personally take care of my aid and to ask for her any time I need anything from now on.

 Okay, so obviously this is something that many parents experience.  Society has become so judgmental and mothers are now expected to be SUPER everywhere all the time.  And kids are expected to be perfect.  And if a kid isn't "perfect" then, it is the parents fault.  Ugh.  This is one of the many reasons we don't take the kids shopping with us anymore.  We can literally feel the judgmental stares as we go throughout the store.  It is exhausting to feel like you aren't allowed to mess up/have a grown up fit/or try different discipline tactics without people thinking you are a bad parent.  No one has a manual on how to raise kids.  And usually the people that write those books are either parents to one, two spaced very far apart, or no children at all. To make matters worse, people seem to think that if you have a large family that you are somehow wrong for that too.  It's all just too much.  I so feel for my friend, Britney.  For reals, an hour and a half with four kids?!!? Dear God, the woman is a saint!